True for You: A Technique to Consider

Using the right technique at the right time with the right people can touch me at my core. When a technique helps to bring the best outcome for a working or learning session I feel grateful. When I see a technique bring people together around feelings, thoughts, and experiences I feel immense joy.

Does this always happen: using the best technique for what we need to do now? No, not always.

However, a technique I love and use with great success is “True for You.”

What it is

“True for You” is a technique that invites all participants to easily communicate how they feel about something in the virtual setting with little pressure.

Why I like it

There are many reasons why I have used this technique in a variety of situations. Here are a few:

  • Everyone is engaged
  • It allows for people to make a statement about something but not necessarily share aloud in the large group
  • It is easy to use
  • It is easy to follow if you have never experienced it before
  • No resources or special technology are required – Zoom is enough. It’s great for in-person sessions too.

How it works

Step 1: Write 4-6 statements connected to the reason your group has gathered that may or may not be true for them. Helpful statements are ones that explore growth/change or the lack of it. They may be statements that help people get to know each other in new ways. They may also be statements that help expose how similar or different we are in our thinking about something.

Step 2: Share the instructions with the participants and ask everyone to turn their webcam OFF.

Step 3: When all webcams are off, post one statement in the chat and read it aloud, saying, “If this statement is true for you, please turn your webcam ON. If it is not true, please keep your camera OFF.”

Step 4: Wait for individuals to consider if the statement is true for them or not. It’ll take longer than you think.

Step 5: When everyone has decided, invite 1-2 people to share, saying, “Who is willing to share why you turned your webcam on.” Thank each person who shares. To keep energy high and minimize the pressure to share, don’t invite each person to speak – only the few who volunteer.

Step 6: Ask everyone to turn their webcams off again. When everyone is ready, post the next statement in the chat and read it aloud, saying, “If this statement is true for you, please turn your webcam on.” Repeat the process.

Examples to Inspire

EXAMPLE 1: a group of participants in a training about effective meetings

EXAMPLE 2: a quarterly gathering of women connected to a church community

EXAMPLE 3: a strategic review with a Leadership Team of a large organization

EXAMPLE 4: a women’s book club

If you wish, you may download a longer writeup of these examples for reference.

Tips for success

Using the technique “True for You” is harder than it sounds. The power of it is in its simplicity. Here are a few tips to help ensure your success:

  • Select your statements carefully. The success of this technique is in the statement crafted and the facilitation of the space.
  • Check the sequence of your statements. It is helpful to start with an “easy” one and then move to ones that may be more provocative or tough.
  • Remain calm. Your calm throughout the process will help everyone be calm. This technique requires an introspective space.
  • Be patient. Don’t panic if webcams don’t turn on right away, people need time to consider the statement. If nobody turns their webcam on, invite a few individuals to share why they didn’t feel they could turn it on OR what it would take for them to do so.
  • Be ready for the unexpected. Because it is a more intimate space for truth telling, you may hear some unexpected or never-before-shared truths. Thank the person for their courage and frankness.

What technique do you like to use?

Jeanette Romkema ( is GLP Senior Partner and Strategic Director. 

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